Thursday, February 27, 2014

My 2014 Goals update

 My 2014 Goals

#1 – Finally get out of debt – I am down to 3000$ so just a few more months (If you recall I was at aver 9000$)

#2 – Get active/Lose weight – I want to shed my depression/stress weight and get back to feeling good in a tank top or bathing suit.  Only 23lbs to go.(18 lost)

#3 – Let it go - I have come to the realization that I have fought for my BF and step kids as much as I can in my position.  The rest has to be my BF, I need to let go of the steering wheel and focus on being a great co-pilot.  Also, I need to let go of drama that is not mine.

#4 – Rediscover me – For quite a while now, I’ve been feeling a little, I don’t know, lost maybe.  Everything has revolved around the BF, the step kids, the Ex, and I just feel like my identity has gotten a bit lost in the mix, at the very least needs me to rediscover who I am NOW.  I’ve even been at the point where I don’t recognize myself anymore.  Goal #3 should help with that, #2 also.  I’ve been reading A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle, and it’s helped me see that I have been falling into a lot of roles lately, when I should be just being me.

Inspired by Mama Kat's writer's workshop: Update your readers on your 2014 goals. How are things going? Are you staying on track or facing some challenges?

Mama's Losin' It


  1. Getting out of debt is a great thing. I did it a few years ago and continue to be debt-free. It's amazing how feel the weight lift off your shoulders.

    My situation is sort opposite to yours. My son is having big issues with his dad and step-mom. I'm doing my best to be supportive to everyone involved but it's wearing me down..... I hope you find some balance

  2. Your goals actually are very much like the reasons I started blogging to begin with. Feeling like I had lost myself somewhere along the way letting mom, wife and caretaker of everyone else who could never say no ... weight gained and not getting lost...debt mounting in the face of putting my kid's through college and the possibility of losing our house overshadowed everything...
    That was about 7 years ago...the debt is under control...mostly.
    The 3 older kids are on their own now so I have only the last 3 to get through college...but they are gonna have to pay their way since mama ran out of equity when the housing market crashed and...well, that weight moves up and down and up...and I keep plugging away knowing that I WILL WIN that battle, eventually.
    I enjoyed your writing style and I love your blog's the same as mine! Great minds and all that...:)
    Stop by one of my blogs and leave me note sometime!
    Dawn aka BusyMom @

    (did I mention I'm an overachiever?)

  3. Yeah for just about debt free! I love that feeling. It gives you so much freedom.

    And, for finding yourself again--keep at it. I remember when I married my second husband and added 3 more children (to my 5), it was very difficult. I felt much the same way as you. I had one year left to finish my B.S. degree, and then went on to do a M.S. That helped define me and where I was headed.

    I did stumble through the step-parent role. It took a few years, but I decided instead of worrying so much about his children... I just let him do it. The disciplining, everything! It wasn't working for me anyway. We survived through those difficult years, barely. It's better now, now they are all raised.

  4. Wow! You are an inspiration, keep it up!!